Fighting is a normal phenomenon in any relationship. It is not something couples are immune to, and even friends are no stranger to this too. Misunderstanding and miscommunication can occur anytime. These differences can elicit various emotional responses, and at times can escalate. From a simple debate to an argument, it can turn to intense fights. But too frequent and recurring fights are things to watch out for. It can drain you emotionally.
A lot of people struggle to manage and deal with the stress of fighting. Below are three simple tips to follow to help you manage and handle fights whenever they occur in your life.
Before a Fight Starts
Be mindful of each other. Learn to stop an argument before it could start, especially if it involves a very petty issue. Train yourself to let go of small nuances and avoid a fight as much as possible, even if you are right. If you make a big deal with every little thing that can annoy you, you will have a hard time peace of mind. Hold yourself and take control of your emotions. It is not easy. It takes a lot of personal strength.
Occupy yourself with your task, listen to calm music, go on a walk, and try hard to avoid needless confrontation with anyone. Consider your peace of mind a priority all the time. Doing this will bring more positivity to your life.
During a Fight
Try to understand the nature of the fight. Some fights occur out of boredom, and they’re also those with signifying a deeper reason.
Remind yourself that you value the person you fought with and that their opinion matters to you. Have this in mind whenever you are having a conversation and especially when the conversation is not in a good term. Remember that you intend to understand and be understood in the process. Use simple words and speak calmly. Apologize if you have to and acknowledge that you are wrong. If this does not work, give each other a break.
At this point, you may consider expressing your thoughts through a message. That way, you will have more control over your emotions, and you can choose how to phrase your thoughts. Confrontations are good, but some situations call for a break from seeing each other. Remember that your goal is to be able to communicate better and send your message across to the other party.
You can also send them photos of great moments you both shared. Reminding them of those memories can set the mood, can help cool your heads, and tells you both good times and what it is like when you understand each other.
Arguing with Co-Workers
Trouble can also arise not with your loved ones or friends but with people you work with. There can be several reasons for this. And with a weak personal bond, this kind of argument may not be easy to settle when the other party refuses to acknowledge their mistake and continues to drag the problem in front of everyone.
The primary key to addressing this is to maintain professionalism. Stick to the facts, communicate your points, and, if possible, keep it private. Talk to the other party privately, try to view the situation from their vantage point, and work on reaching a common ground.
If things still are not fixed, inform a higher authority, and seek their counsel. Ask them to help you to settle the issue. Sometimes, a third party is needed to be able to reach an understanding.
You can not avoid an argument or a fight all the time. But you have many ways to handle and manage it. Learn to walk away from things that you can not control. And remember to keep a positive attitude always. Believe in your ability to do this. You will not only feel better; you will be rewarded with a sense of empowerment. You got this.