As lockdown continues, something strange is happening in the dating world.
“The amount of people dating is skyrocketing,” says expert Rob Wang.
“The quarantine has been hard on folks. People are lonely and realizing how much they need deep human connection. Dating apps are being swarmed.”
Numbers from the Match Group, which owns Tinder, Hinge, and Match.com, show staggering revenue increases, totaling just over $2 billion.
“Women are surging to dating apps, and that trend will only increase as the strain of the pandemic causes people to seek out more emotional connection.”
Popular dating app Hinge has experienced a 30% boost in message volume, and 70% of members say they’re open to a virtual date. Likewise, Bumble is seeing a 12% increase in messages sent and call durations averaging an impressive 21 minutes.
Even older, more traditional dating sites are experiencing the surge in user activity. Since March, OkCupid users sent 30% more messages and have matched 10% more frequently.
“The numbers show that more women than ever are flooding the dating market. Most men are failing to take advantage of that fact. They don’t realize that they’re one small change away from having more dates than they can reasonably handle.”
Rob Wang is known in online circles as the Great Date Guy. Starting in 2018, he’s used his background in psychology, somatic processing, and his experience training and working with the # 1 dating coach in the world, to help men.
LAWIRE: So why do you believe guys are having such a hard time with online dating right now?
Rob: Most guys don’t get that dating and sex are 100% about emotions. Your average guy was raised to keep his emotions away with a 12-foot pole. We’re taught that they’re weak and having them makes us weak. Trouble is, in dating, that’s like trying to win a street fight without your arms.
Without knowing how to spark her emotions, guys are doing things like trying to keep the conversation going for as long as possible — hoping they’ll accidentally find a subject that they can magically connect on. Another common mistake is trying to convince her to give out her number or go on a date. This is the fastest way to get her to leave.
LAWIRE: Interesting, what do you think women are actually looking for?
Rob: Women are looking for safe, sexy, and successful. First, she has to know you aren’t going to kidnap her or worse. This is a very real risk for women, so if she thinks you’re hiding something from her, or pretending to be someone you’re not — she’s gone.
Second, she needs to feel deep emotions with you. How you look, how tall you are — they’re not as important as people say. One of my former clients is 5’6”, uses a seeing eye cane because he’s blind, and women are still chasing him for dates. He’s learned to speak to them in a way that makes them feel strong emotions.
Love, lust, desire, craving — they’re all emotion based — emotions are the secret to easy dating and attraction. They can’t be faked.
Finally, if both of you are after a serious relationship, she’ll want to know you can pay your own bills, afford rent, etc. The bar here is lower than most guys think.
Good for you if you have a yacht and a 7-figure income. But most women have dated a rich guy before and they’ve learned the hard way that a relationship based only on financial success — isn’t what they want.
That’s why safe and sexy are FIRST on the list.
LAWIRE: Any other advice for the single men out there?
Rob: The stress of this lockdown is a blessing in disguise. You get to see how your future girlfriend reacts in chaotic, messy times. You don’t have to waste 2-5 years to figure out if she can hang. Right off the bat, you will see if she’s the kind of person you want at your side.
If you’re serious about dating, this lockdown is your golden ticket. It won’t be this way forever. Don’t let it go to waste.
To contact Rob, visit GreatDateGuy.com.