People say pain and rejection bring out a grand narrative. For Connor (Selna Kim) McCalness, heartbreak, and rejection were the reality of his life.
Born in Indianapolis, Indiana, Selna faced a difficult childhood in a broken home. He witnessed his parent’s divorce and was placed in a shelter at a young age. Unlike most kids who spend days playing with friends to their heart’s content, kids his age made him an outcast and bullied him, leaving a permanent scar on his cheek.
An outcast, bullied, and left all alone on the cafeteria lunch table, Selna’s confidence plummeted to zero, and his self-esteem suffered greatly. The isolation created a craving in him for some connection, but like a sore thumb, he stuck out, unable to connect with anybody, talk to, meet or attract the kind of girls he wanted.
“There were those who had it with women,” he states, “then there were those who didn’t. I was one of the ones who didn’t.”
Not a quitter, Selna, during his college years, sought out the people who had the skills to connect with anybody – the club promoters. Luckily, he was accepted into the circle, and Selna felt like he was home at last.
At first, it felt like a dream. Selna’s new friends taught him all they knew, and he went from being “the kid picked last” to having models, VIP events, raves, beach parties, and more at his behest. This new life became extremely addicting, and luckily- before it was too late, Selna walked away from it all at 23, as he felt empty, frustrated, and disappointed.
Suffering from a major heartbreak, Selna then went on a quest to seek answers about rekindling relationships. He sought help from experts and hacked the secret to truly creating a healthy, loving, and intimate relationship. Teaching the secrets he learned in the organization to others, he was able to help men attract and date the kinds of women they dreamed of but also began to help others salvage their failing relationships.
Selna then decided to write a book chronicling his experience in a world only accessible to a few. In the novel titled “Waking the Core of Man,” Selna shared a detailed first-hand witness account of club promoters’ glamorous industry. He shared all he had learned about attraction, romance, dating, psychology, sparking uncontrollable desire with the opposite sex, and providing help to those struggling in their relationships and marriages.
In the newly released novel, Selna channeled his passion for coaching to share his unfiltered personal experience with the sole purpose of providing help to people struggling with a relationship or divorce, ultimately reducing the rates of divorces. The novel “Waking the Core of Man,” nearly hit the top 200 dating books on Amazon in the first four days of its release.
Through his book, Selna is now on a new mission to help others live a vibrant and more purposeful life. He encourages people to ignore the negative thoughts from others, take the necessary actions to reignite the passion in their relationships, start that business, or knock away the self-sabotaging beliefs that keep them from success, peace, and happiness.