It’s Not About Us: A Co-Parenting Survival Guide to Taking the High Road
It’s Not About Us is a deeply moving and insightful book that delves into the complexities of divorce, single parenthood, and the journey toward creating a new family dynamic. Darlene Taylor’s candid narration and personal reflections make this book a compelling read for anyone navigating the challenges of co-parenting or seeking an understanding of the emotional landscapes involved in a family undergoing significant changes.
Each chapter thoughtfully explores a different facet of the protagonist’s journey, from the initial upheaval of relocating for her ex-husband’s career in Chapter 1 to the profound reflections on personal growth and the redefinition of family in the Epilogue. The book is notable for its honest portrayal of the emotional turmoil experienced by Taylor, her dedication to her daughter’s well-being, and the gradual evolution of her relationship with her ex-husband.
Darlene Taylor’s ability to articulate complex emotions and situations is a standout feature of the book. Chapters 2 and 7 offer a raw and authentic look into the struggles of dealing with depression, self-acceptance, and self-forgiveness. Darlene’s commitment to maintaining a healthy co-parenting relationship, despite the challenges, is a recurring and inspiring theme throughout the narrative.
Chapters 5 and 6 are particularly noteworthy for their exploration of the practical aspects of co-parenting, with an emphasis on mutual respect, trust, flexibility, and consistency. The author’s approach to incorporating literature as a tool for explaining the family’s situation to her daughter is both innovative and touching.
The book does an excellent job in chapters 11 and 12, highlighting the unexpected positive aspects of divorce and the challenges of dating as a single parent. The author’s introspection and the evolution of her perspective provide valuable insights into the complexities of redefining family roles and dynamics.
One of the book’s strengths is its portrayal of Darlene’s journey towards self-care and maintaining a personal identity, as seen in Chapters 10 and 13. Her realization of the importance of balancing her own needs with her parenting responsibilities is a vital message for all parents.
The Epilogue beautifully ties together the themes of the book, emphasizing the importance of prioritizing a child’s needs and maintaining healthy relationships post-divorce. Taylor’s decision to relocate with her ex-husband, not out of sacrifice but for the sake of their daughter’s well-being, is a powerful testament to the maturity and commitment required in co-parenting.
Overall, It’s Not About Us is a poignant, enlightening, and ultimately hopeful book. It offers readers not just a story of navigating divorce and co-parenting but a narrative of personal growth, resilience, and the redefining of what family means. Highly recommended for those facing similar challenges or anyone interested in understanding the emotional journey of divorce and the power of cooperative parenting.
About the Author:
Darlene Taylor is a certified professional parenting and life transitions coach in addition to being a therapist and clinical social worker. As an author and speaker, Darlene’s superpower is helping people see the very best in themselves and achieve things they never thought possible. Before moving to Los Angeles, she was a Gender Studies professor at the University of Cincinnati. When she is not writing, you can find Darlene hanging out with her daughter in Los Angeles and dividing her free time between obstacle course races, the beach, and the tennis court. Her current book is titled It’s Not About Us: A Co-parenting Survival Guide for Taking the High Road.
Published by: Martin De Juan
